6 Things You Do During Oral Sex That Women Absolutely Hate

Oral sex can be tricky: some men may think they have all the right moves, when in fact they're doing it all wrong. While most research indicates that clitoral stimulation is key for women to reach orgasm, that doesn't mean that men should only spend a few seconds down there and expect their partners to be satisfied. Making a woman come takes time and effort, and the only thing worse than being bad at oral sex is not trying to please your partner at all.

To figure out some of the most common mistakes men make during oral sex, we spoke to six different women to get their takes. The next time you head down south, keep these tips in mind, so you can turn that “'Oh, no” into an “'Oh, yes."

Not knowing a woman's anatomy.

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Let’s be honest — sometimes, it can take a long time to find a woman’s clit. That said, knowledge is power, and being familiar with the female anatomy will only aid your cause. Unfortunately, this is all too rare: according to Cosmopolitan's Female Orgasm Survey, 50% of women said their partners couldn't quite help them achieve orgasm, and 38% of women also said their partners didn’t give them enough clitoral stimulation for them to be close to orgasm in the first place.

These numbers seem to suggest two things: 1) men can't quite figure out where the clitoris is, and 2) they may not be trying to stimulate their partners’ clitorises at all.

“There have been multiple times I have been with a man, and, for the life of him, he can’t find my clit," said Allison, 29. "It’s not this huge mystery where it is, but for some guys it seems like they are just lost in my vagina.”

So guys, just take a second and look! By looking first, you’ll be able to see the labia, the folds of skin around the vaginal opening, and, yes, the pea-sized bump directly above where the lips meet, a.k.a. the tip of the clitoris (the rest of it is actually inside!). While not every woman achieves orgasm from clitoral stimulation, many do (75 percent, according to one study), so getting to know your partner's anatomy is crucial.

Not rubbing the clitoris the right way.

Yes, it is possible for you to literally rub a woman the wrong way, so it's up to you to figure out what works best for your partner. The clitoris is a very sensitive area, and when it’s stroked too hard, it can actually be incredibly painful.

“One time a guy rubbed my clit with such vigor and rapidness, I was like, ‘Um, no thanks, that’s OK, I appreciate your enthusiasm, but that actually hurts. Please stop,'" said Katie, 35.

It’s great to be excited, and it's awesome that you want to get your partner excited too, but remember to be careful. To avoid irritating your partner, try to engage all sides of the clitoris — inside, outside, and side to side. (For more tips, check out our ultimate guide to oral sex.) Use a combination of both your hands and your mouth. By lightly flicking your tongue lightly around your partner’s clit, as well as inserting a few fingers in her vagina and moving them in a come hither motion at the same time, you can really get your partner going.