Men Suck At Giving Women Orgasms, Science FINALLY Proves

Guys, you should be so embarrassed.
Wanna hear something depressing? Straight women aren't having partnered orgasms NEARLY as much as anyone else.
Thankfully, science has GOT this — and as a result, men have ZERO EXCUSE not to make their ladies orgasm hard.
Before I get into the how and why of it, let's just pause and say that it is straight up ridiculous that it's 2017 and we can grow ears in petri dishes but we still aren't having honest conversations about the fact that men don't understand women's bodies.
It's ridiculous! It's lazy! It's sexist! And science, well, science has had enough.
A team of researchers has uncovered the secret to guaranteed female orgasms.
Hold on to your uteruses ladies, things are about to get steamy up in this piece. 

According to a new study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior:
"A study from a team of US researchers suggests that a combination of genital stimulation, deep kissing, and oral sex is the 'golden trio' for women when it comes to increasing their likelihood of reaching orgasm with a sexual partner."
I have so many questions, but let's start with the most obvious one: Were there no women scientists working on this study? I feel like there weren't because if there had been at least one would have been obligated to be like "oh my god you guys, duh, why is this even something we are researching, is no one else depressed by this?

Oh, wait, probably not because you guys have been way too busy having hogging all the orgasms.
The fact that this sort of research is being done should actually make me happy. Like, hooray! We are finally addressing the fact that for centuries women's orgasms have been unappreciated, altogether denied, or seen as proof of their ties to Satan.
But also, it's 2017. We have invented sunglasses to play in virtual reality and we all carry powerful computers in our pockets at nearly all times. Are we REALLY still trying to plumb the mystery of why oh why it's "so hard" for women to have an orgasm?
It's not a breaking scientific study, it's men being LAZY in bed.

Here's a newsflash: It isn't harder to make a woman orgasm than it is a man. It just requires a different technique than the male orgasm.
Would you throw away a gallon of mint chocolate chip ice cream because you couldn't use a pie server to dole out the sweet stuff?

No. You would use a different tool.
This is something that lesbians have totally figured out. It ain't hard for lesbians to make each other orgasm, that shit is simply the provenance of straight women.

Other findings in the study:
"While 95% of heterosexual men reported that they usually or always have orgasms during sexually intimate moments, just 65% of heterosexual women did. By contrast, the figure was 89% for gay men, 86% for lesbian women, 88% for bisexual men and 66% for bisexual women.
Only 35% of heterosexual women always or usually orgasm during vaginal sex alone, with 44% saying they rarely or never did. By contrast, 80% of heterosexual women and 91% of lesbians always or usually orgasm with a combination of genital stimulation, deep kissing, and oral sex — but without vaginal sex."
Did you pick up on what science is throwing down? Lesbian women score much higher on every possible orgasm test than straight women. This isn't because they are magical sex goddesses (though I am sure some of them are) it's because as women they understand that it takes more than a penis going into a vagina to make orgasm possible.
There is no reason men shouldn't be experts too, especially if they want to continue having hot sex with they women they love.

6 Yoga Poses That Can Double As Seriously ORGASMIC Sex Positions

Plus boner bonuses for each!
Ever wanted to improve your strength and flexibility in a way that will improve your bedtime play?
The following yoga poses will help improve your sex life —  and (BONUS!) they even double as sex positions for the willing, able, and daring.
1. Wide-Legged Forward Bend (Upavistha Konasana)

Start standing, with your legs about three feet apart, and slowly raise your hands above your head. Keep your feet flat as you bend at the hip and touch your hands to the ground in front of you. As you gain flexibility, you can move from your hands to your elbows, and if you’re feeling daring, you can rest your head directly on the floor in front of you.
You should feel the stretch in your inner thigh muscles and the burn in your shoulders.
BONER BONUS: Have your guy come up behind you — this is a great position for increased depth.
2. Happy Baby (Ananda Balasana)

Start by lying flat on your back. Without allowing your tailbone to lift from the floor, bring both legs up straight. As your legs get higher and higher, it is natural for your knees to bend. Focus on keeping that tailbone down and pulling your feet further — don’t worry about the knee bend. As your body gets used to the stretch, your knees will straighten out.
BONER BONUS: This position is a great perk to add to a typical missionary position. It will make you feel smaller and your guy will have easier access.
3. Cat to Cow (Marjaryasana and Bitilasana)

Start on all fours. Roll your shoulders forward and follow the roll down your whole body so your head and your butt are tucked forward and your back is arched like a cat’s. Take a deep breath, exhale, and roll your shoulders back, following the roll through your chest, butt, and head. End in a pose facing upward, with your stomach arched down and your butt sticking out. Inhale, exhale, and return to the first position.
Do this repeatedly to stretch your back and your core, and open up your muscles and heart through deep breathing.
BONER BONUS: Have your guy kneel behind you for a similar penetration to the Wide-Legged Forward Bend. If you’re feeling extra daring, use this position as a starting point for a little bit o’ 69. If your man has some patience, go slowly through both the cat and cow portion of this move — and watch him squirm.

4. Downward Dog (Adho Mukha Svanasana)

Start standing and raise your hands above your head. Bend and touch your hands to the mat or floor in front of you. Slowly walk your hands forward until your hips form a 90-degree angle. Flex and release your feet to feel your calf muscles stretch.
BONER BONUS: Have your guy place his feet on either side of yours. You’ll feel smaller and he’ll find increased stability and control with this position.

5. Bridge (Setu Bandha Sarvangasana)
Start lying on your back with your knees bent slightly further than 90-degrees. Keep your arms straight at your sides. Push your butt off the ground until your body is straight, and hold this position for five seconds. Remember to breathe while holding, and repeat. You should feel the burn in your thighs and butt.

BONER BONUS: Have your man kneel between your legs for a fun twist on missionary. This position will allow your guy to hit those sometimes forgotten spots that lead to a super intense orgasm. Feeling lazy? Stick a pillow under your bum and pull your legs up into a modified Happy Baby position to reap the benefits of both positions.

6. Chair Pose (Utkatasana)
Start standing with your feet flat on the ground and your arms lifted straight into the air. Lower them so they are parallel to the ground and squat until your knees are bent at a 90-degree angle. Make sure your back is straight and perpendicular to the ground! Use the weight of your arms in front of you as leverage while you bend your knees. You should feel the burn in your thighs and lower abdomen. Hold for a minute to build endurance, or hold for five seconds and repeat to build muscle strength.
BONER BONUS: Have your man sit in a chair behind you and bend your knees to sit in his lap. To make it a bit easier on your thighs, use his knees for support or have him put some of that hunky arm muscle to work by helping to lift and set you down.

These poses will help build all of the muscles necessary for a great romp in the sack and will make you look super sexy doing it.

Use them as a general workout, to increase your libido, and as a way to revitalize your sex life.
Any of these poses individually can bring a new ferocity to a repetitive sex life or you can use them all in one session for a night you and your guy will never forget!
More sexy content like this from Slutty Girl Problems:
Best Sex Positions for Her Pleasure
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This article was originally published at Slutty Girl Problems. Reprinted with permission from the author.

The Step-By-Step Guide To Toe-Curling, Eye-Rolling Cunnilingus

She won't be able to resist after you read this.
In all matters of making love to a woman, it’s especially effective to tease and tantalize her, allowing her arousal to build. Men generally get aroused with little to no help, but it usually takes a lot more for a woman.
When I was teaching my workshops on sexuality I always asked the women what advice they’d like me to pass along to the men. Invariably, they would all say, "Tell them to slow down." And after you think you’ve slowed down, meaning how long you take moving from one thing to another, slow down some more. Then ask if you’re taking the time she’d like. You’d be surprised how much more she’ll want.
Slowing down is so important when you're performing cunnilingus on a woman.

Some women are shy about allowing you to pleasure them with oral sex. They worry that they might not smell good. Tell her you like her scent, if you do, but to help alleviate her concern offer to pleasure her when you know she’s freshly showered.
Another way to alleviate her worries, is by make bathing a part of the entire experience by showering together. Soap up your hand, then wash her very slowly, sensuously, going inside the folds of her labia (see photo below) but never into her vagina. The soap will cause problems for her. Let her know how much it’s turning you on.
After she’s rinsed off and still standing in the bathroom, get on your knees and pleasure her with your tongue for a few moments, giving her something to look forward to. Dry her and guide her to the bed, or wherever you intend to pleasure her.
Now that you’re in bed with her. Before you go anywhere near her genitals most women really need lots of passionate kisses. Kissing is the most intimate thing two people can do because it’s not just body parts and sensations, but a connection of souls. Women enjoy making love the most when that connection is felt. By the way, this goes for any kind of lovemaking. It’s an important element of slowing down.

After kissing a while, move to her neck and very slowly, continue working your way down, kissing her breasts, her belly, the inside of her thighs, the back of her knees, the inside of her lower legs, her feet … even suck and lick her toes (if you like). She might be surprised but it could be very exciting for her. Remember to take your time — remember that you’re teasing her to build up her arousal and the feelings of wanting you.
Now, when you get to her "triangle of light," (her pubic area) what is called her "yoni" in Sanskrit, touch and kiss her all around it but only when occasionally brushing across her clitoris and labia as if by "accident." The goal is to make her crazy with wanting you to "get on with it." (By the way, this works fabulously well for any kind of lovemaking, not just oral sex. That’s the slow down thing. If you know how to get her begging for it, you’re an outstanding lover.)
With an extremely light touch inside the thighs and anywhere she’s let you know she likes it, stroke her skin with your fingertips. For this is the most effective method ... brush her skin as lightly as you possibly can, as if your fingertips were feathers. If she doesn’t say it in words she’ll tell you with wiggles or moans of pleasure.
Now for the fun. Begin to kiss and lick her clitoris. Explore her amazing woman-parts. Occasionally move away, then kiss and lick her thighs. This will make her a little bit crazy, but it will help build up her arousal and her need for you.

Moving back to her yoni, use your tongue to investigate and pleasure her in every possible place. Her wiggles and moans will tell you you’re doing it just right. Take mental notes for the next time. Each woman is a little different and you want to know exactly what gives this lovely creature the most pleasure.
When most women are getting close to orgasm, they need a fairly constant stimulation of their clitoris, sometimes for several minutes. Here’s something that really works well. When she’s totally lost in what you’ve been doing, take her clitoris in your mouth, sucking ever-so-gently and as you’re sucking, flick your tongue back and forth. If you keep that going, she’ll explode in a rapture she’s never experienced before.
Here’s something that works really well for some women. See if it works for yours. While she’s getting closer to coming, but not there yet, stop stimulating her clitoris and kiss her belly, labia, thighs … then when you go back to her clitoris, it will be even more intense and make her come bigger and quicker. Some women may scream, “DON’T STOP!!!” She’ll let you know if this technique works for her or not. Either way, don’t go away for very long or she’ll lose her arousal and she will be one unhappy camper.
For many women, pleasuring her orally is the only way they can experience an orgasm. Or, it’s the easiest way for them to get there. If that’s the case, do this often or resentment will build up that you don’t care about her needs and only care about your own. If you give her this gift on a regular basis, she won’t mind not having an orgasm every time you make love. Neglect her needs and she’ll mind a lot. Eventually she’ll lose interest entirely. I doubt that you want that. A well satisfied woman is an enthusiastic lover. THAT, I’m pretty certain, you do want.

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How To Achieve Amazing Sex WITHOUT Climax

Your orgasmic adventure can liberate you from achievement-driven sexual climax.
There is a heated conversation going on...
Do you really need to climax to have good sex? Or is it your orgasm that can liberate your pleasure and set you free?
There are thousands of women who know how to get the most pleasure out of sex and it is true that they are not pleasure climax climbers at all, but rather orgasmic bliss seekers. Orgasm is a continual process that builds to climax. And if you truly want to achieve sexual pleasure it is important to understand the stages of your orgasm and master love-making.
Climax happens to be one part of the entire process whereas orgasm is a fantastic experience, adventure and process that has many different levels of sensation, emotion and healing.

What does orgasmic bliss sex offer you that the climactic let down sex doesn’t?

The women I know that concentrate on orgasm...well...they know the difference between a climax and an orgasm. And they are willing to stake their claims on a passion filled orgasmic work out rather than an achievement based climactic blow out.
In order to fully flow your juices and experience insane pleasure, women need to know the difference between a climax and an orgasm. A climax is the peak of an orgasmic experience. It is the fireworks at the end of a party. Maybe, you get there, and maybe, you don't, but one thing is for sure you can reach orgasm a lot easier that you can climax. And it is your orgasm that holds all of the pleasure power that you need to have an amazing sex life.  The climax is just icing on the cake.
For many women, we shut sex out of our lives or miss out on orgasmic pleasure because we are thinking that we have to hit peak performance in bed in order to please our partner's expectations of climax. However, you can take your power right back from the bleak picture of climax sex by knowing what powers your orgasm holds and asking for what you want from your partner.

In order to understand the difference, there are five things you need to know about your orgasm!
1. Orgasm Begins And Ends With Desire
You have to be turned on to get into your orgasmic experience. When you find yourself floating away and thinking about other things, you are nowhere near an orgasm, and there is no way you are going to climax. Is it a desire of yours to experience real sex different from what maybe you think you know about sex? Your desire to make sex an exploration can help you enter into an orgasmic state of bliss.

2. Excitement Is The Driving Energy For Orgasm

You want to feel yourself excite and flow with the power of your desires in order to feel yourself surrender to the orgasmic waves of ecstasy. Excitement is the wave that pushes you to connect in love-making and brings orgasmic energy into play.
3. Arousal Is A State Of Attention To Detail
In arousal, you will feel empowered to ask for more. As you become aware of the sensations that bring blood flow to your vagina and clitoris you will feel yourself become aroused and alive. This sensation of blood flow, heat and turn on is necessary to keep you in the sexual play. As you become aroused, just as a man's penis hardens so does your clitoris enlarge and fill with pleasure. This is the peak of experience that will lead you into orgasm
5. Orgasm Is Like a Wave Of Muscular Activity That Runs Through Your Vagina, Tissues And Body

It is the energy that surges from the arousal and in a healthy experience, causes the juices of your sexuality to flow. As you orgasm, you will feel yourself become fluid flow. You will feel yourself tense up and release as the juices flow through your body and lubricate your experience.
6. Orgasm Carries With It Healing Benefits That Are Sustainable
As you begin to work with your orgasm and stretch it out into a multitude of delicious waves of energy and bliss, you will find that these waves create happiness, joy and peace of mind that continue beyond your sexual arousal. The body memory and chemicals of happiness that are produced can last way beyond your bedroom experience.
So although you may want to hit the peak of your climax and feel the explosive power of your sexual experience, it is important to take time to nurture your orgasmic consciousness and ride the waves of pleasure.

5 Craaaazy Things You NEVER Knew About Your Clitoris

It's time to get to know the most pleasurable part of your body once and for all.
You know that saying, "I don't know art, but I know what I like"? Well, that pretty much sums up the clitoris for me. I don't fully comprehend it, and honestly, I don't try to dive too deep into its complexities. I just appreciate it, and as such, want it displayed prominently, highly revered, and ideally touched up regularly with some powerful brush strokes (preferably clockwise).
To properly celebrate the female anatomy, we're schooling you on the things you probably — no, definitely — never knew about the mythical clitoris (aka the only part of the body designed solely to get you off). Because like my art history teacher and pretty much every after-school special used to preach, understanding is the key to fully attaining your masterpiece.

And remember, masterpiece means orgasm here. So, here are 5 clitoris facts you need to know and what that means for your vagina.
1. The word "clitoris" is derived from the Greek word for "key."
As in key to your heart, or probably more accurate, the key to the city as it can certainly open lots of doors.

2. Thought you knew where your clitoris was?
Nope, it's not just that little button (the glans, if we're being scientific). It's actually within the pelvis, extending deep within you. Don't believe me? See a diagram from the Museum Of Sex.

3. Like a fine wine, your clitoris gets better with age.
It's reported that the clitoris starts growing upon puberty, and is almost quadruple in size by the time you reach your early 30s. By menopause, it's seven times its size. That whole "why old people allegedly get it on a lot?" theory is suddenly becoming crystal clear.
4. There are 8,000 nerve endings in the clitoris.
Eight THOUSAND. Sort of makes you wonder about the guys who can't get you off, amiright?

5. It's got some penis personality.
Although they couldn't physically look any more different, there are a few striking similarities in their make-up including erectile tissue, foreskin and even a shaft. Oh, and the clitoris also grows when aroused, it just doesn't prop through our pants when the wind hits it right (or, not that you can see anyway). Religious or not, that deserves an Amen.

10 CRAZY Things You NEED To Know About Masturbation

We're teaching you about the ladylike art of solo sex.
Just like periods, female masturbation is one of those topics that are met with beet-red blushing, awkward silence or a fit of giggles. But the reality is that loving yourself really isn't all that taboo. And this new, eye-opening infographic from Jimmy Jane proves it: More women are getting touchy-feely, lovey-dovey with themselves than you probably realize.
So in honor of the female anatomy and all the amazing things about the female orgasm, we're teaching you about the ladylike art of masturbation.
1. More women masturbate than you think.
Okay, so maybe it's not all day, every day, but this statistic is definitely not the perfect picture of modesty we tend to envision for ladyfolk: 92 percent of women masturbate regularly. And just like the infographic says, the other 8 percent are probably lying.

2. Women are masturbating more often.
Moreover, 60 percent of women indulge in some self-lovin' about two to three times a week. About 10 percent of women do it every day. Different strokes for different (lady)folks.

3. Some women are psychic masturbators.
In other words, they can turn themselves on and even orgasm with their minds. That's a special talent, right there. Barry Komisaruk, a neuroscientist from Rutgers University, studied women who can climax without touching themselves. In his study, he observed female volunteers in an MRI machine who could quite literally think their way to orgasm just as intense as if they had done it the old-fashioned way. But don't judge. It's all in the name of science, guys.

4. Female animals masturbate.
Female homo sapiens are not the only ladies lookin' for some lovin' in the animal kingdom. Observed out in the wild and in their owner's homes, female animals have been caught in compromising situations and they all have their sex toy of choice: horses rub against fences, birds bend their tails, while porcupines and monkeys have sticks. And no, it's not just because they're itchy. Scientists have debunked that theory by sampling their ahem... secretions.
5. Historical documentation dates way back.
Ready for a history lesson quickie? The first depiction of female masturbation was seen in a clay woman figurine dating back to 4 BC from a temple site on the island of Malta. She is referred to as the Hagar Qim woman and she is poised "with one hand languidly supporting her head."

6. Women talk about masturbation a LOT.
And here you thought guys were the randier sex. Boy, were you off-mark.
According to a 2002 study, young women are much more open talking about sex than men are. Eva Lefkowitz from Penn State University conducted the study over three months, observing 124 women and 81 men between the ages of 18 to 25 and focused on their conversations with their same-sex friends. She found that the female subjects chatted about all matters of sex — including masturbation — much more frequently than men. Paints a new picture of "girl talk" doesn't it?

7. Masturbating helps ease menstrual cramps.
It sounds like all is not lost if you're stuck somewhere without Midol. Experts explain that the surge of feel-good hormones released during solo sex can help relieve pain.

8. Many horny women watch porn.
For "inspiration", maybe? According to a study commissioned recently by social webcam site Cam4 and French survey institute IFOP, 21 percent of American women admitted to watching live sex shows online. (I'd prefer to spend that time masturbation-free binge-watching Sons Of Anarchy on Netflix, but whatever gets your rocks off.)
9. Women use it to put themselves to sleep.
It's not always simply for fun for one — sometimes it's just about hitting the hay with yourself! According to the infographic, 32 percent of women masturbate to help themselves fall asleep. Who said going to bed alone was a bad thing?
10. Almost half of all women would rather go solo.

Sorry, Casanovas of the world but we don't need you. Do it yourself if you want it done right, right? According to the Jimmy Jane survey, 41 percent of women said they enjoy masturbation more than sex. Now that's taking control of your sexuality!

11 WEIRD Places Men Have Stuck Their Penises

I blame American Pie.
I was born with a vagina and I was fortunate enough to find as I grew up that this part of my anatomy did, in fact, align with my gender.
But that didn't mean I wasn't curious about what it would be like to have a penis.
I'm 33 and I still think that having a penis has to be a baffling, troublesome, potentially painful experience.
That said, from what I've heard, seen, and experienced, most men love having a penis.
The love having a penis so much that they eagerly stick it into holes, frantically thrusting until something magical happens: an orgasm.
We all know at least one man with an awkward and hilarious story about something they put their penis in during their youth. My boyfriend was in the throws of a deep dry spell and he used to roll up his comforter and mount it like it was some sort of big boob having porn star. Lol, I really hope he doesn't read this post, and since it's mostly about other men's penises, I've probably got nothing to worry about.

The truth is when you have external genitalia that are stimulated by being put inside of different things, every dude on the planet is going to go on the hunt for the perfect thing (other than a vagina or an anus) to put their penis inside.
Men on Reddit are currently sharing the grossest things they have put their penises inside, and I'm here to share with you some of the craziest ones!
Here are 11 of the grossest, craziest places your man has (probably) put his penis in:

1. "In between the cushions of the pleather couch in my living room, almost every day from age 13-14. Used cocoa lotion. Looking back on it, I wonder if my parents knew. The couch must have smelled like cocoa-lotion, and the part between the cushions was perpetually shinier than the rest of the couch."
2. "I’d fuck the kitchen counter. it was smooth marble so I’d just put lube around it and start fucking it. It was amazing."
3. "Rabbit fur, rabbit fur and an old Scooby Doo doll. Yeah that was a weird time in my life."

4. "Took a plastic bag, put two slices of ham on each side and filled it with soapy water. Put it under my parents’ mattress. I was young and expected it to be a good simulation. I was way off and am now very embarrassed."

5. "Don’t judge me too hard. My mom gave me a Teddy bear when I was a kid, it developed a hole in the back of its neck and I’d stick my 13-year-old penis in there and fucking shake that bear. My shame. I later burned it after one last sympathy fuck. Wish I was kidding."
6. "My 15-year-old self was very into raunchy movies and American Pie was the crème de la crème, for lack of a better phrase. Well, I didn’t have an apple pie to speak of, but guess what my southern, carbohydrate-loading family did have—McCormick Pot Pies. What’s the difference, right?
Well after following the insane instructions I slid my member past the flaky goodness and into the turkey gravy encased. Never again, just never, never again…"

7. "Bought a Fleshlight
. Used it couple of times, almost all the time blowing inside. I forget to clean it after I’m done. I hide it between the space from my bed and wall, so it’s really dark and can’t be seen unless you take a close look. One day I was doing my thing, all of a sudden I saw black stuff on my dick. I thought my dick was dirty since I sweat at night and haven’t gotten a bath yet. I finished my business as usual and looked inside. It was filled with some black looking mold. The top was all black and it was hard. It felt like taking a scab off. Underneath it, it was white and creamy. I quickly washed off my dick and threw the Fleshlight out."
8. "Worked in a bakery. Once bread dough is mixed, it’s left to rise. I went into the cold room, punched a hole into the dough, lubed it with some water and put my dick in it."
9. "Using jelly. Not KY. Smucker’s. With the jar."
10. "When I was about 13 my neighbor was really good looking and I was over at her house to watch cartoons and do the normal 13-year-old stuff. I went into her bathroom and saw one of her open toed heels and put my little 13-year-old member into the hole and humped until I couldn’t hump anymore. 9/10 would do it again."

11. "I’m late but I’ve been meaning to talk about this. I found instructions on how to make a homemade Fleshlight out of marshmallows in the middle of July. The basic principle was to cut the marshmallows in half and stick them to a glass or cup and basically just fuck it. At first it’s amazing and doing the job just as intended with a bit of lube of course. After maybe 5 minutes it begins melting, cut to about a half hour later of me trying my damn hardest to get off and I finally managed to finish. It was a mess of melted marshmallows lube and pubes, and unfortunately I couldn’t shower for two days due to our shower being broke, so after two days I had to shower dried marshmallow grease out of my pubes and it wasn’t working, so I basically either had to learn to shave or deal with it for a long while more. I shaved and only cut myself once and thankfully wasn’t anywhere important; shaving balls is easier than people say it is. Moral of the story is: invest in your toys."Yeah. I know. I kind of feel like I need to take a shower. If you want to read the rest of them, get your butt on over to Reddit, but be warned these are SO (obviously) not safe for work.

5 Facts About How The Size Of Your Clitoris Affects Your Orgasms

Clits for the win.
It's funny, but you don't hear women talking about size of clit the way you hear dudes talk about size of penis.
Obviously, the two things are pretty different, but they both contain erectile tissue and play a pretty big role in sexual pleasure, so what gives?
By and large, women have two misconceptions about their vagina's hood ornament, the clitoris:
The first, that it is a big button that will make you orgasm if flicked vigorously enough, and the second, that having a "small" clit can make having an orgasm impossible.
Ladies I am here to tell you that NOTHING can make having an orgasm impossible, vagina or no vagina.
Take it from me, a woman who has literally been talked off, orgasms are just as mental as they are physical.

You don't need a vagina or any of its accoutrement to orgasm.
Still if "size of clit" is still something you've been known to Google late at night when sleep refuses to come and you can't possibly watch another episode of Law and Order: SVU, let me tell you a couple of important things about your lady boner. 

1. However small you think your clitoris is, it's bigger.
Clits for the win.
It's funny, but you don't hear women talking about size of clit the way you hear dudes talk about size of penis.
Obviously, the two things are pretty different, but they both contain erectile tissue and play a pretty big role in sexual pleasure, so what gives?
By and large, women have two misconceptions about their vagina's hood ornament, the clitoris:
The first, that it is a big button that will make you orgasm if flicked vigorously enough, and the second, that having a "small" clit can make having an orgasm impossible.
Ladies I am here to tell you that NOTHING can make having an orgasm impossible, vagina or no vagina.
Take it from me, a woman who has literally been talked off, orgasms are just as mental as they are physical.

You don't need a vagina or any of its accoutrement to orgasm.
Still if "size of clit" is still something you've been known to Google late at night when sleep refuses to come and you can't possibly watch another episode of Law and Order: SVU, let me tell you a couple of important things about your lady boner. 

1. However small you think your clitoris is, it's bigger.
Okay, so here's the hard (lol, like a penis) science about size of clit and how it helps or hinders your orgasm.
In February 2014 in The Journal of Sexual Medicine conducted a study of 30 women. Ten of the women weren't able to have orgasms. They conducted MRIs and determined that in the case of these 10 women, small clitorises could lead to more difficult orgasm.

But the REAL question is what was making their clits so much smaller. Turns out, hormones were the name of the game, namely, a lack of testosterone.
So a small clit isn't a problem, it's a symptom, and good news, it's treatable!
Yay! Orgasms for everyone!
3. Clitoral placement has a huge impact on your orgasmic ability.
I say it to guys, and I'll say it to women now too: Size don't REALLY matter.
If you are having a difficult time orgasming with your partner but you can get off just fine when you're on your own, clitoral placement might be the issue.
Unless your clitoris is very close to your vaginal opening it can be difficult to stimulate during penetrative sex.
In other words, he gonna have to get to work, oral sex speaking, if you want to get the clitoral orgasm of your dreams.
And who doesn't?
4. Your clitoris is SO sensitive orgasms that can be difficult.
Did you know that your clitoris has more than 8,000 nerve endings packed into it?
That's right, your clitoris is insanely sensitive.
In fact, your clit might be SO sensitive that direct contact to it could make having orgasms difficult.
To work with these nerves and not against them, try exploring your vulva and see how else you can stimulate yourself externally to get results.
5. Your clitoris has one job.
A dude might think that his penis is only for recreational sex, but he's wrong.
The penis is a tool (lol) with a few purposes including reproductive sex and you know, urination.
The clitoris? That little mama exists ONLY TO GIVE YOU ORGASMS.
So don't neglect her and don't ignore her. If you learn how to treat her right she will reward you with all sorts of spicy pants feelings, ya dig?

How To Make Her Have Multiple Orgasms In 3 Simple Steps

Here's how to make her come again and again all night...regardless of your size or stamina!
Multiple penetration orgasms.
It’s the holy grail of female orgasms and it’s what you’re going to master after reading this.
If you want to solidify your place as "the best she’s ever had", get excited! You’re about to learn exactly how to do it. Only a few men know how to pull this off. In fact, a lot of people think it’s not even possible. Not even many women know how to have multiple orgasms!
So if you want to blow her mind in a way she might not even think is possible, here's the simple 3-step formula on giving any woman, multiple penetration orgasms:
Step 1: Delay your orgasms and speed up hers.
If you’ve ever come before your woman had a single orgasm, the idea of giving her multiples can seem impossible.
You need to last long enough to make your girl come again and again. Imagine your arousal on a scale from 1 to 10.
One is not aroused at all and 10 is an orgasm. A 9 is your final warning, and if you don’t stop right now, you’re going to a 10. To truly enjoy sex without worrying about blowing it too quickly, stick to a 7 or 8.
Now think about what happens when you first enter your girl. Before that moment, you’re rock hard. You’re already at a 7 or 8. Now, what happens when you make your first entrance? She feels so warm and delicious around you that it instantly increases your arousal.
When you enter inside of her, your arousal goes from 7 or 8 to an 8 or 9. If you start thrusting right away, your arousal is only going to increase and before long...

"That’s all," she wrote.
The way to last as long as you want is to get used to the new sensation before you start thrusting. When you first slide into her, only let her feel the tip of your penis. Pause for a second and pay attention to how it feels to be inside her. Then pull out.
Now do it again. Do this a few times to start getting used to the new sensation. When you pull out, take a minute to tease and please her outer bits. Rub your tip against her clit and between the crevices of her lips.
Press your tip against her opening without going in. Pull back a bit and ease the pressure before pushing against her again. Press your tip against her opening and rub it up and down between her lips without going in.

Now enter her again and only go in a tiny bit further than the last time. Pull back out and keep doing this until the sensation of being inside her feels like a 7 or 8.
This technique not only makes you last longer, it also teases her and skyrockets her arousal. She might start begging you for more or maybe she’ll grab your hips and try to pull you in deeper. Don’t let her. Flip the frame and tell her that she’s not ready yet.
It’s only going to build her desire and bring her that much closer to orgasm while pushing yours even further away!
When you are ready to go deeper, give her 1 deep thrust at a time and then several shallow thrusts. Give her 9 shallow thrusts and 1 deep. Then 8 shallow thrusts and 2 deep. Do this until you’re at 1 shallow thrusts and 9 deep. Then turn around and go back the other way.

Mix it up. Try 1 deep thrust for every 1 shallow or 1 for every 3.
Keep her guessing and anticipating. Also, don’t limit yourself to using this method only at the beginning of your session. Any time that you feel like you’re creeping towards a 9, pull out and use this to tease her some more while you cool down.
Step 2: Use proven orgasm-inducing positions.
The most common sex positions are often the worst at making women come. Why? Because they don’t create any stimulation to her clit or g-spot.
Think about it. Picture yourself thrusting in and out of your woman right now. How much contact are you making with her clit? What about her g-spot? I'm guessing not much.
So use positions that force your member against her "orgasm zones". Here are 2 of my favorites:
Position 1: Magic Missionary
Place a pillow on your bed and have your girl lay on her back with her butt on top of it. The pillow is going to lift her butt and tilt her pelvis. Get on your knees in front of her and scoop both her legs up. Now, bend her legs and place her feet resting against your chest.

You can also place her legs over each of your shoulders, or for a tighter fit, place both her legs on the same shoulder. Want it tighter still? Cross both her legs over the same shoulder.

The real key is the pillow. The pillow tilts her pelvis so that when you thrust back and forth, you thrust straight into her g-spot.
Position 2: Doggy Deluxe
Once again, you’re going to need a pillow. (You see why women always have so many pillows on the bed?)
Place the pillow in the middle of your bed and have your girl lay pelvis down on top of it. Again, this is going to tilt her pelvis in the perfect angle you need to make her kitty purr.

Imagine she’s laying flat on her stomach and because of the pillow, her butt is sticking up. Now get on top of her as flat as possible while you hold yourself up with your arms and knees. The trick is to thrust straight down because that’s where her g-spot is, thanks to the angle created by the pillow.
Make this position even hotter by pinning her arms down and whispering some dirty talk into her ear.
Step 3: Make her come again. And again. And again.
If you’re using one of the two positions above, it won’t take her very long to come.
Once she comes, her g-spot gets very sensitive.So sensitive in fact that any stimulation will be uncomfortable or even a little painful. So here’s the trick to making her come again during penetration.
Once you give her the first orgasm, stay inside of her! Don’t pull out. Don’t move your penis. Let her cool down a little. Kiss her. Breathe while looking into her eyes. Talk dirty to her. Tell her how sexy she looks when she comes.
Now, move your penis inside of her very slowly and then stop. Wait a few more seconds and then move inside of her slowly again for about 2 seconds. Then stop again.

Most important, make sure you pay attention to her reactions and increase accordingly. She might need a little more time before you start. You might need to wait longer between movements.
The trick is to gradually increase your movement.
Each "micro move" will lower her sensitivity a bit more. Before long, she’ll be able to handle full-on orgasm. Give her penetration again. If you pull out once she comes, you'll need to let her fully "come down" before entering her again.
By staying inside of her, you can bring her sensitivity back down to a level where her kitty is ready to keep on purring.
Bonus Tip: Always make her come first.

Always give your woman foreplay orgasms before sex.
Why?
The more you make her come before sex, the easier it is to make her come during sex and the less time it takes!
Nick Hardwick is a Montreal-based sex coach, who believes euphoric sex is your birthright.  If you're ready to be the best she's ever had, watch Nick's video The 67 Ways To Make Her Come First. If you're a woman and want to make your man melt, watch Nick's Blow His Mind Video.