Fulfilling Your Boyfriend’s Anal Play Fantasies: A How-To Guide

Some people like butt stuff.  Some people don't like butt stuff.  If your guy happens to like butt stuff, don't assume he's gay.  Liking someone of the same sex is gay.  Enjoying butt stuff  gay.  Keep reading to find out how to fulfill your boyfriend's anal play fantasies.

Make sure he wants it. Ladies, strapping on a dildo and doing your man isn't something you can force him into. Men need to be in the mood. They need to want it. Having someone climb up into your butt (not literally), can be traumatizing. So, first and foremost, make sure there is consent.

Encourage cleanliness. To start off your sexual pleasures, you two should take a nice, steamy shower together. While you're in there, amidst all the steamy sexiness, have him wash his behind. It'll help him feel comfortable and it'll promise you a safe entrance once you begin.

Douche it up. Apart from cleaning the outside, he'll want to clean his inside, as well. Naturally. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. Just because we poop out of our butts doesn't mean we can't have sex with them too. Have him search a YouTube how-to video on douching if he needs to, but have patience. Let him be comfortable and ready.

Prepare the necessary items. You're going to obviously need some materials before you jump into his butt. You'll need a strap-on dildo, (a lot of) lube, maybe some poppers (we'll get to that) and whatever other toys he might be interested in.

Poppers. This is super popular within the gay community, and that's because of all the butt play. If he wants a nice head rush to take his mind off the potential pain or discomfort, have him inhale some poppers. You can find them at your local sex store, and it'll keep him in the mood. Keep in mind, though, that these aren't for everyone.

Start with oral. In the same way he might go down on you before penetrating you, go down on him. This might take you some getting used to, but analingus is actually really sexy — if you allow it to be. Again, cleanliness is key, but doing this will loosen him up and get him hot and bothered.

Don't force anything. The butthole is small. Don't just ram the dildo into him. Take it easy. Give it some time. Eventually, it will stretch out enough to make it fit just fine, but in the meantime, take it nice and easy.

Applying lube. Butts are not vaginas. They don't create natural lubrication. So you're going to have to do all the work in that department. Lube that hole up. Lube that dildo up. Lube everything up, and keep that bottle close by. Because you'll probably need more.

Ask him how he wants it. If this is his first time, ask him questions. Make sure he feels totally comfortable letting you know what he's interested in. If he wants specific positions or certain speeds, let him tell you — and listen. You don't want to scar him (literally and figuratively).

Start with a finger. If this grosses you out, then maybe you shouldn't be doing it in the first place. If it doesn't, then slide a finger all up in there. Help him. Get it loosened up for him so that he can be prepared for the much bigger toy about to penetrate his former no-bone-zone.

Treat him how he wants to be treated. This is clearly a role reversal, so if he wants to be completely submissive, let him. Take control and grab onto his body. This is sex. Nothing else. So be sexy. Explore each other in new ways. Take advantage of this!

Try different positions. In the same way there are different positions with traditional, vaginal sex, the same applies to pegging. He can sit on you, he can lay on his back, take it doggy style... There are hardly any limits. But obviously work up to new positions. Neither of you want to get hurt.

Wait until he finishes. While you're hitting him from behind, his male G-spot (his prostate) is firing on all cylinders. This means that when he comes, it's going to feel like nothing he's ever felt. Let him enjoy this. It'll be worth all the work when you see his face (that is, unless you're doing him from behind).