When you first start getting to know a person you're interested in, you may be unaware of their negative qualities thanks to the rose-colored glasses you're probably wearing. Before it's too late, you should look out for the red flags that could save you from a potentially bad relationship. From overbearing texts and calls to forbidding you from having friends of the opposite sex, here 15 Reddit users share the red flags they are always on the look out for in a new relationship.
User undonehair. "I was told that when we started dating, I was to install a GPS program onto my cell so he'd know where I was at all times. He flipped when I told him 'nope,' argued that his last gf did it and that's how he caught her cheating so it was a 'sign of trust.' Got tf out of there immediately."
User crashfest. "Laughing off or ignoring your boundaries or just things you want. Another one is believing that women are all one way. Plenty of good-natured men who don't hate women do this. I guess its just a lack of interaction with women, but it can get to the point where they don't really see you for yourself, or you gotta prove them wrong constantly, or they may have these expectations for you you don't live up to."
Anonymous user. “If they only talk about themselves. If they constantly try to convince you that they're too good for you or you too good for them - they should treat you both as equals. If they say "all women are crazy....except you."
User jldvause . "One of my biggest red flags is when men try to psycho-analyze me on the first few dates, like if they say "Let me guess you're one of those girls who x". This is especially worse if they do it based on how I look. I've had guys try to tell me all sorts of things about myself because I was wearing black nail polish. Don't tell me who I am, dude. You just met me."
User yankebugs . "You have to remind them constantly of plans you've made. They cancel last minute on plans 9 times out of 10 and act like it's no big deal, and then tell you you're being 'too sensitive' when you begin to get frustrated. Doing nothing in public, only hanging out in private."
Anonymous user. "Trying to impress me by shi**ing on other girls you've been with or your friends. Also not being honest about your intentions. I don't see anything wrong with only wanting a smash and dash/ FWB relationship from someone - just don't lie about it! Any don't go f**king crazy/ be persistent if they turn you down."
User yungtulip. "Men who very regularly "jokingly" describe themselves as an a**hole, d*ck, etc. or make frequent jokes about lack of ability to be committed or a good SO. I dated a guy like this, mistakingly taking these remarks as self deprecating jokes because of how they were phrased. Then, when they turn out to be a shi**y person, it's not their fault because they "warned you."
User RixBits. "I could on and on, but i'll just say my most recent one. I met this guy on Tinder, we texted back and forth for awhile. One evening i texted him telling him id had a rough day and felt really down. To which he then launched into how his day was worse than mine and whined intensely for half an hour. After which i never replied again. If a woman comes to you saying she is down, it's healthy to try and lift her up. It is not a pissing contest to match her down for down even though misery loves company. Woman look for someone who will comfort them not compete with them."
User FunctionalAdult . "When I give you a heads up that I won't be able to text or talk for a while because I'm working on something time sensitive or complex, and you bombard me with messages and calls anyway. It wasn't like I was doing this every day, but if every two to three weeks I tell you "I'm offline unless there's a corpse I need to identify. I'll text you when I'm back", and I get 13 messages in under four hours? I'm not going to be happy, and if you do it repeatedly I'm out."
User ApparentlyJesus. "When they nitpick at little, insignificant things and claim they're indicative of underlying issues e.g. "they don't fold their laundry and that shows they're lazy and un-ambitious.”
User addling45. "When I was dating I noticed the guys always tried to impress me, treated me special. A lot of flattery and an essence of falsehoods. However, when I found my husband, he treated everyone special. Everyone was treated with kindness and respect. He was genuinely that kind. He went out of his way to be nice to everyone, even strangers. That's how I knew I didn't want to be with any other. Completely in love with that man for 15 and a half years and counting. He is such a joy in my life."
User Gingersnapsicle. "Refusing to let you keep friends of the opposite sex, especially if it's a lifelong friend that you had before you met them."
User Codependentte."If they seem to be trying out different personalities on you at first, seeing which one you respond to. This person is manipulative. Hard to explain, but they put on very different social masks to exploit people."
User Caloenas. "If he compares women with cookies - or generally puts women in an analogy with goods or consumables, it's a big red flag and I advise you to always wear a condom."
User Orchidstar-Camgirl. "Small inconsistencies do it for me. Like if he says he hung out with so and so and we talk about it later and he says he just stayed home. In my experience it's the small things that lead to bigger things Too big of an ego. Bad sense of humour. How he reacts when you disagree with him."
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